FF: “Floppy” upper arms

I don’t really mind my upper arms, but they’re definitely what you’d call… …floppy. I have great shoulders, and I’m super-strong, but when I raise my arm and wave? Well, there’s some motion there, is what I’m saying.

For more summers than I’d like to admit, I sweated it out in elbow-length sleeves and flutter sleeves and anything with fabric to cover this area up. I was totally self-conscious about them from about the time I was 17 onward. And I still don’t like the way I look in a typical short-sleeved shirt.

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Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing the matter with how I look and people definitely aren’t going to run away screaming or anything. But I’m uncomfortable, and don’t feel quite as awesome as I’d like to. And if I’ve learned anything from the past five years, it’s to think about why I might not like something.

For me, and short-sleeved shirts, it harkens back to my first rule of visual principles in clothing:

If you want to broaden the appearance of some part of your body, paint a horizontal line over it.

And that’s the key, for me and short sleeves. They draw a line across a part I’m less fond of, broadening and calling attention to it (and often denting in that very soft skin/flesh there, which is doubly noticeable).

Putting that rule together with short sleeves was an “aha!” moment for me. Because it meant that I didn’t have to cover them up anymore. I just needed to draw the eye elsewhere. Like, say, my rocking shoulders.

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As you can definitely see from the side, it’s not that my arms are actually any smaller or more toned. But the eye is drawn elsewhere, to parts I’m more fond of. Particularly from the front, I feel like my arms play definite second fiddle to my shoulders, collarbone, and face–all parts I adore.

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So there you have it. As the temperatures here in New England climb and we’re all looking for ways to cool off?

Instead of trying to cover up the parts you don’t like, try drawing the eye to those you do love, instead.

Comments

  1. says

    You are absolutely right!!! I cut the sleeves off one dress I made and it was much better!! I now make the world in general look at my arms and my knees and legs too!! And honestly, I know you have feelings about your arms, but they look fine!!

  2. Debbie says

    Amy, you always teach me something new. If you hadn’t posted the pictures, I wouldn’t have believed that going sleeveless would take attention away from the upper arms. Thank you! Now I’m going sleeveless and will feel much cooler here in Florida.

  3. says

    I love this. I started wearing sleeveless shirts last summer. I had always hated the way my upper arms looked until one day. I had on a sleeveless tank and was about to put another short sleeved shirt over it when I realized that I liked the way I looked. I haven’t looked back! Sleeveless!!

  4. Lisa says

    Thank you for this. It is wonderful advice. I have similar issues with my upper arms and have tried to start wearing sleeveless t-shirts. My mother does call them my “slut shirts” but I really have to let my conservative background go :)

  5. stpehanie says

    yup! I don’t like my thighs, specifically the baggy bits above my knees, so no shorts for me. I wear skirts that hit just barely above that skinny bit just below my knees. cool comfortable and covered!

  6. says

    Your approach is so refreshing! We’re always being told to cover up whatever it is, particularly those of us who are, ahem, older. I like your way of looking at things better:)

  7. Amy says

    Thanks for the lovely comments, everyone! So glad you’re finding the posts helpful. And isn’t it funny, 2paw, how we focus on these tiny things about ourselves and practically nobody else sees them?!

  8. Katy says

    I think you and I are figure-twins in many respects, so I’m gaining a lot from these posts, Amy! I have the slenderest little wrists you’ll ever see, and then Rosie the Riveter’s upper arms. WHY??!?? ;)